I Can't Speak

I'm a self-diagnosed introvert.

No, I don't dislike being around people. I love being around people. But for me, an introvert, I have this much energy for small talk, group interactions, being entertaining, that gets quickly tapped out. Then, I need to recharge.

I've always been drawn to extroverts. You know the type: social butterfly, moving easily from conversation to conversation, generating energy from the people around them. What makes them so happy in these interactions?

I'm real good in situations where I can exercise control, like giving a presentation, or coaching a group as a subject matter expert. But quiet, intimate, get-to-know-you moments? Ack! Small talk! Weather, family, job, hobbies...ack!

What's the thing that--for me--is sucking the energy from those situations? Is it that there's no meat there? Vacuous, substance-less banter? Why do some people like that?

One day, I found improv. Improv comedy, to be accurate. I was around people, sure, but also I was entertained and entertaining without exhaustion. What's the secret? There was a pattern: break the ice with some on-ramp; lowering the stakes by learning to embrace mistakes; realizing mistakes are delightful pivot points in a conversation; listening carefully; accepting what I've heard; building on that; sharing the spotlight; prompting; being authentic.

I can follow a pattern! Jeepers, just look at the spreadsheets I've created. Unlocking the complex nuances of interpersonal exchanges with a pattern I can practice made a huge difference in my enthusiasm for interacting in public. That's a lot of $20 words. More simply, I had an action plan.

I didn't need to control the situation, like I do when I'm the star. No, I needed to learn how to balance on a surfboard...and then just ride.

Well guess what? It's a thing that can be learned. Tremendously useful for one-on-one conversations. Nuclear level in groups, at work, home, play.

ComedySportz Austin can help you get there. Ask about how we've helped companies, government departments, churches, synagogues, hobby groups, healthcare providers, financial advisors, firms...and individuals. Book a quick, free 30-minute discovery call with me to talk about your needs. I've got a link here: Free Discovery Call. Or visit our site at https://www.comedysportzaustin.com/hire-us to noodle a little before we chat.

You'll feel so good about your human connections.